A few days ago I posted a video where I discussed my journey as a guitar player and how that mirrored my marriage journey. (If you missed it you can watch it here. Take a few minutes, I’ll wait for you.)
The main message was about learning to listen, however there was another message there that I want to take some time now to expand on.
When I decided to get serious about really learning to play my guitar, I decided to go back to basics. To start from square one, as if I was brand new. I made a conscious decision to follow the steps as presented by my coach in his program.
Why is that so important?
Because, even though I know some things, I don’t know everything (as evidenced by my lack of skill). And, what’s more important, what I do know I may know “wrong”, and that misunderstood “knowledge” could really be holding me back.
This is a situation that I see in many of my clients. They know some things about marriage. They even do many things well. But, they’ve usually missed some fundamental skills, and some of the techniques they use are doing more harm than good.
When I run seminars, I always address this situation right up front when I ask the participants to listen with an open mind, forgetting what they already “know” so that they can be open to the new ideas I have to share with them.
This attitude of “going back to basics” is super important when you are trying to up-level your existing knowledge. It allows you to fill in the knowledge gaps you have, correct any misunderstandings in your method, and take the things you were already doing right to a whole new level.
Karate masters use this principle in their ongoing training. Every so often a black belt will start again as a brand new white belt student and rise through the ranks again. Perfecting their technique opens them to new levels of understanding and mastery.
Take a minute to evaluate your marriage:
- Is your relationship less than you hoped it would be?
- Are there areas where you struggle because you’re “missing something”?
- Would you like to take it to the next level, to have a marriage that makes your friends jealous?
I bet you got at least one ‘YES!’, right? Great! None of us are perfect and when we pretend that nothing is wrong we can create a pattern that hurts everyone we love. Trust me, it isn’t the best choice and it doesn’t work in the long-run.
If you’re ready to get back to basics and learn how to have the best marriage possible – to go for real mastery! – you are the perfect candidate for a new program that I’ll be launching in the next week.
There’ll be limited space and it will be filled on a first-come-first-served basis. To reserve your spot in line just fill out the form below and you’ll be the first to get all the details.
And, as always, if you’d like to learn more about what having a coach can do for not only your marriage but your life in general, click the Book a Discovery Session button to have a no obligation chat with me.